2023 Fall Week of Action

The Dater’s Guide to Safety & Prevention

MONDAY, OCTOBER 23, 2023

Makeup or Breakup: Exploring the Spectrum of Healthy, Unhealthy, & Abusive Relationships

Activities to host on your Campus

Poll the Peeps

Description: Engage with students using the Instagram Poll feature to gather their responses to the question, “How do you take care of yourself after a breakup?”

RELATIONSHIP WHEEL

Description: Become acquainted with the Power & Control Wheel and initiate discussions with your chapter members on ways to enhance its inclusivity, ensuring it addresses the needs of LGBTQ+ students, male survivors, and other underserved populations.

Host a YSL Beauty How to Exit An Unhealthy Relation Safely & Avoid Ongoing Manipulation on your campus!

Description: Gather a group of students for an in-person or virtual training on your campus.

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Relationship Red Flags in Pop Culture.

Description: Have your chapter poster your campus with examples of Relationship Red Flags from television and movies.

View examples of the 9 Signs of Abusive Relationships in Euphoria

TUESDAY, OCTOBER 24, 2023

Swipe Safety: Online & Active

Activities to host on your Campus

Host an on campus Peer to Peer Training on Online Dating Safety

Description: Gather a group of students for an in-person or virtual training on your campus.

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Designated Buddies

Description: In a group setting, encourage students to create a network of friends they can message if they ever require a discreet way to exit a date. When a friend receives the agreed-upon codeword, they will call with an excuse to help the student safely leave the date.

Uber Rideshare Tips

Description: Drop these It’s On Us x Uber Rideshare Safety Tips on your chapter’s instagram account!

This Is How We Do It

Description: On Instagram, use the Q&A prompt to ask students how they’ve stayed safe using online dating apps. Post their responses for students to learn how their peers stay safe.

Wednesday, OCTOBER 25, 2023

Two Way Streets: Consent & Communication in Relationships 

Activities to host on your Campus

Student-On-the-Street Interviews

Description: Fire up your chapter’s social media account and record yourself asking students what traits they think make healthy/abusive relationships (be sure to ask for permission first).

Play the “Abuse Is Not Love” Card Game.

Description: Gather students on your campus to play the Abuse Is Not Love card game, and ask one another questions about healthy vs. unhealthy relationships.

Fill out this form to request a card game.

 

Host an on-campus Peer to Peer YSL Beauty WTF Is A Healthy Relationship? Training

Description: Gather a group of students for an in-person or virtual training on your campus.

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Walk the Walk, Chalk the Talk

Description: Gather members of your chapter to chalk drawings of Green Flags with associated positive behaviors in healthy relationships and Red Flags with associated negative behaviors in abusive relationships.

 

Thursday, October 26, 2023

The Dating Game: Starting Relationships Off Right

Activities to host on your Campus

Host a YSL Beauty Intimate Partner Violence Prevention Training on your campus!

Description: Gather a group of students for an in-person or virtual training on your campus.

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Paint Your Campus Purple.

Description: Gather students on your campus to play the Abuse Is Not Love card game, and ask one another questions about healthy vs. unhealthy relationships.

Fill out this form to request a card game.

 

Draw On Me!

Description: Have students practice asking for consent by stationing a chapter member with a white It’s On Us t-shirt during a pledge drive campaign. Students will have to ask to write positive messages on the shirt, reinforcing the importance of consent.

(Courtesy of Kutztown It’s On Us)

Wish I May, Wish I Might, Be Asked this Question Tonight

Description: Arrange a table and poster in a popular campus spot and invite students to write down the questions they wish their partners would ask them to make them feel seen and heard. For instance, questions like “How was your day?”, “What’s been on your mind lately?”, or “What’s something you’ve always wanted to try?”

 

Friday, October 27, 2023

The Friend You Deserve:  Showing Up & Stepping In

Activities to host on your Campus

Host a Bystander Intervention Training on your campus!

Description: Gather a group of students for an in-person or virtual training on your campus.

Downlaod the Workshop Materials

Peace Pumpkins

Description: Paint some locally-sourced pumpkins purple in honor of Domestic Violence Awareness Month and place them around campus! Attach a QR code on the back of the pumpkin that links to local domestic violence shelters.

(Courtesy of Transylvania It’s On Us)

Fishing for An Outro

Description: Place a selection of one-liners in a glass bowl for students to select, read, and employ when they need to divert a friend from an unsafe or harmful situation. Examples include: “Our Uber is about to pull up, let’s head out”, “You’re in my Stats class, mind if I ask you something quickly about last Tuesday’s class?”, “My phone’s about to die. Can we go run and get your charger?”, and “Our friend just messaged us; let’s locate them right away.”

Show us how you have been an active bystander

Description: On your chapter’s Twitter, ask students to quote tweet their answer to the following prompt: “How have you stepped up in a potentially harmful/escalating situation? #IOUWeekofAction”